I know a lot of you are worried about college and your transition from college to high school. You may have not felt challenged in high school and are worried about the challenges college will introduce you to. Or you may have struggled throughout high school and wonder how you are going to manage the college life. Honestly my first piece of advice to my young sisters are GO TO AN HBCU. For those of you who don’t know what an HBCU is, it is a historically black college or university. As an African American, the HBCU experience is unmatched. You are surrounded by people of color from all over the country, who have the same goal in mind as you, to maintain a career. As far as academics go, my number one piece of advice is TIME MANAGEMENT. Time management is essential in college. A professor told me this saying and I think every college student needs to hear it. “Procrastination is like masturbation. It feels great but you are really only F***** yourself.” Do a little bit of work every single day. Also in college you are learning for your future occupation. Therefor, cheating your way through college is only a disservice to yourself, because you will need this information when entering your career.
I met a lot of amazing people in college. The greatest thing for me about college was being around people who had the same end goal as me, to be successful. High school is for the most part mandatory. A lot of people are there because they have to be there and not necessarily because they want to be there. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of people who come to college are still unmotivated and will leave you thinking, “Why are you even here?”. Don’t focus on those people though. You can be friends with them, as close as you want, but don’t let anyone stray you away from your goal.
If you are reading this I beg that when you get to college you KNOW YOUR LIMITS. I am not promoting underage drinking or drug use, but I am acknowledging that, experimenting is a part of young adulthood and if you do decide to be apart of that life, just KNOW YOUR LIMITS. In high school, I had a lot of older friends so I experienced a lot of things in my junior and senior year that a lot of people experience for their first time in their freshman year. The thing about college, at least about Hampton is that they won’t hesitate to take your $40,000 and kick you to the curb if you are acting disorderly. Before you get to college, if you know you are planning on experimenting, try to do it the summer before, in a safe space, with people you can trust. Just simply knowing what your body can and cannot handle could save you money, embarrassment, and discomfort.
I came to college, fresh out of a relationship not really looking for another one. At first I was just chillin talking to a few people nothing serious. When I met my current boyfriend, we were really just kicking it but we started to vibe heavily and it turned into a relationship about 5 or 6 months into us spending time together. My biggest piece of advice about men in college is that you need to know yourself. Don’t enter college expecting a relationship cause most college boys are really just in it for the sex. Yes, you can definitely find a good one. Let it happen though, naturally. Don’t push a relationship on anyone. Your freshman year is supposed to be the best year of your college experience and some relationships are toxic and will leave you to stressed out to truly enjoy yourself. Know yourself, and know your worth ladies. Make any man that wants to pursue you WORK FOR YOU. You are a queen and only the best of the best should have access to your royal palace. (Mind, Body, Soul!)
My biggest piece of advice for all of you are to KNOW YOURSELF. You are going to change so much your freshman year of college. Just embrace the change and don’t question it. Allow yourself to grow, allow yourself to learn. Observe the people around you and listen as much as you talk. BE YOU UNAPOLOGETICALLY AND BE STRONG WHILE DOING IT.
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