Blake • Counsel

Love Yourself Before Seeking The Love Of Another

What a lot of people don’t realize about happiness is that it starts from within. You will never be fully happy with anything in your life unless you are happy with yourself. It is so clear a lot of women, are lacking self love just by the things they allow themselves to go through. When you really truly love yourself, there are certain things that will never be tolerated because you value yourself to much to put yourself through that. A lot of time women are in relationships, where they continuously settle for less than they deserve. Anytime you settle in life, you are doing yourself a disservice. When you settle for less from a partner specifically, you are doing yourself an even bigger disservice. Essentially, what you are saying is that not only are you willing to settle but also that you don’t feel like you are worth more than what you are settling for. Women will tell themselves “this is what I want in a person”. Then meet someone, and all of that goes out of the window. The problem is women associate singleness with unhappiness. We often feel like if we don’t have someone, something is wrong with us, or we aren’t good enough. This is the same reason why we tolerate so much toxicity in our relationships. A lot of women would rather a toxic relationship then no relationship. That is such a dysfunctional mindset to have. If you don’t love yourself, you will never find anyone who loves you correctly. In order to be loved correctly, you have to know your worth and wear it on your head like a crown. You are a queen, and always will be. You teach people how to treat you. If you don’t respect yourself, why would anyone respect you? Self love is so important. The only person in this world who is with you every step of the way is yourself. Cherish her. Stay tuned on my 11 ways to build self-confidence post.

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